Why am i dating an alcoholic
In the meantime, I’d say hold off on starting an “official” relationship for both your sakes.Although I never plan on dating an alcoholic or addict, my attraction to them is uncanny—I joke that I can find a room filled with 100 people and instantly be drawn to the ones with a drinking problem.I was vulnerable in a way that I’ve never been again. An alcoholic doesn’t always look like a gutter rat.I also realized that my asexual tendencies at that time—which resulted from my troubled home-life coupled with sexual orientation shame and simply being a late bloomer—could be quelled by alcohol. • In fact, in my dating mind, they tend to be attractive, outgoing, charismatic and rebellious in a sexy way (in Los Angeles, anyway.But after a few months, you end up seeing other sides of each other. That’s a good sign at least, but there’s still plenty you don’t know about him.
If he has that on his plate to deal with, I don’t think that this is the right time for him to start a new relationship either.It’s in the fact that I’ve made peace with my love for people who, in their fallibility, and in their miraculous recovery, have taught me more than any other kind of person.They’ve taught me about judgment, about kindness, about generosity, about spirituality.At least, not until he’s really worked out his issue and has had it under control for a while.People certainly can recover from being alcoholics – I have seen it and I can tell you that it’s entirely possible he’ll handle it too.