Proof that dating is haram in islam
It is improbable that the average teenager, would just read these books, and that there would be no impact on her mind.
It is usually exactly the opposite: she wishes she was the person on the pages of the book, and transfers her fantasies to her real life.
If there was a physical aspect to her relationship, then these feelings of guilt are deeply accentuated and coupled with a total loss of self-respect.
In the worst possible scenario, which is frequently happening, the girl, in an effort to improve her 'self image', may turn to various other ways...smoking, clubbing, drinking and drugs..she may embark on a series of flings just to make herself feel 'special' again.
For it is now that all the arguments with the parents start:'Why can't I go out tonight? ' And there are the mood swings, the fluctuating eating habits..the phone doesn't ring, then it's a case of 'I don't feel like eating.' And then there is dishonesty...unable to tell her parents where she really wants to go, she makes the excuse of having to go to the library to study for tomorrow's test.
The ending of each relationship is most often marked by a long periods of torture, in which the girl has to 'get over' the boy.
And when they read romance novels, this theory is further reinforced - for, in the classic teen romance novel, the girl without a boyfriend, or "sweet sixteen and never been kissed" is the poor, laughing stock, who doesn't have a date to the "prom".
By the time the impressionable reader of these novels reaches her late teens, she is sick of these story lines..is searching for more.And regarding fornication, Allah Ta'ala says in the Holy Qur'aan: " The woman and the man guilty of illegal sexual intercourse, flog each of them with a hundred stripes.Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allah, if you believe in Allah and the Last Day.In short the 'relationships' so sweetly portrayed in romance novels, which speak only of chocolates, flowers and happiness, end right there: on the pages of the novel.In real life, such relationships lead to nothing but unhappiness and heartache.