Problems dating single
But when you're a human whose ability to keep a tight schedule is in part dictated by a tiny human who doesn't give half a sh*t about schedules, maybe be slightly more forgiving.
Not even a single mom should be wildly inconsiderate of your time, but if she's a few minutes late to meet you, just move past it.
Any woman who gets upset that you A) walk into the first date with a few assumptions about her life, or B) that those assumptions are wrong, is kinda of a d*ck and maybe you don't want to date her anyway.
But it is a good idea to ask questions more than you project assumptions.
And to be fair, that stuff can be a pain in the ass, but every part of being a mom requires coordination to a degree that seems super-human to non-parents.
The truth is, booking a babysitter is a minor, easily attainable detail about dating as a single mom compared to the actual big variable we have to deal with: the people we date. As if existing as a woman isn't an inherently foreign enough concept for dudes, throw the element of parenthood int the mix and they are wildly shooting in the dark when it comes to understanding our lives. Turns out, a lot of things about how women parent and date have changed in the last 30 years.
The idea that all single moms are dating with the exclusive goal of finding someone to marry us and alleviate some of the parenting burden and keep our kids from growing up in a Broken Home™ (*insert overly dramatic anguish face here*) is offensive, in addition to being laughably wrong in so many cases.
Single moms date for as many different reasons as people without kids, and are as likely or unlikely to be open to a serious relationship as anyone else.
We'll react appropriately, and then you'll know how serious something is (or is not).
Everyone is under the impression that the hardest thing about dating when you're a single mom is ultimately scheduling.
You have to arrange for your kid(s) to be taken care of — whether that's by a family member, a co-parent, or someone you're paying — anytime you want to so much as grab a quick drink with another person.
Especially in the early days of dating, talk to her about anything and everything else, just like you would anyone else, and let her show you how much she does (or doesn't) want her mom life to be a part of her dating life.
This is good advice when dating anyone who is a human and, like humans do, sometimes needs to cancel or reschedule or is 10 minutes late.