There is a reason she has written all that.” Damien says, “The best flirt I ever received was from a lady who wrote something that showed she had at least read my profile. They don’t work.” The same goes for guys; everyone will just think you’re creepy if you over-do it with compliments, especially when you barely know them.
But, lucky for Zooskers, you’ll find that breaking the ice online is a lot easier and a lot less frightening than approaching someone in real life.
You don’t have to deal with a crowd of people watching you, you can take a really long time thinking of what to say, and you have the assurance of knowing that the people you’re approaching are also single and open to meeting someone – after all, they’re on a dating site.
In fact, I thank her to this day for her honesty and friendly reply.” Tailor-made messages, like tailor-made clothes, really fit better. Also, while it’s one thing to be tongue-in-cheek, it’s another thing to be vulgar – and sometimes it’s too easy to slip into the latter when you’re trying to be the former.
The best way to approach a first message is to keep it in ‘friend’ territory. You have plenty of time to develop things further, so be patient for now. Avoid TMI TMI – or ‘too much information’ – about yourself is a no-no on a first date, and it’s also a no-no with a first message too.