Effective messages on dating sites
This discussion is primarily for sites such as where you write the online dating first message yourself (see more on how works if you’re not familiar with what I’m referring to).
This advice may still be helpful for sites such as e Harmony or Chemistry.com, however these services guide the communication and there is less “emailing” early on.
My advice in this article is based mostly on sites like where we find ourselves having to initiate contact all on our own.
For this discussion refers to your first message in online dating.
I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.
This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.
Most profiles should have much more information for you to work with but you can apply the exact same ideas: Also, regardless what any book or person tells you (including this guy), you need to be making decisions for yourself.
I spent too much time blindly follow good-intentioned advice and not thinking for myself early on when dating online.