Divorced women and dating
But I for one, think being divorced can actually be a stamp of awesomeness to we men willing to look past the stigma. Hell, even George Clooney couldn’t make his first marriage work. You know it’s better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong.I think this experience actually means you’re a cut above your never-been-married friends. And are maybe more willing to wait for the right guy than jump into something just to have a body next to you.That you have things to work on in your character, personality or attitude. But that willingness to accept fault is also incredibly attractive to the right guy. You stood up and said, “No, I won’t stay in something that’s a lie.” And that means you have standards. Right.” Your bullshit detector is now iron-clad, and you realize you don’t always have to “stand by your man.” Because a lot of guys don’t deserve to be stood by. Hell, maybe you can help us prevent us from losing our way, too, if we drift. Because you look wonderful when you walk down the street alone, unafraid, cool and confident. You’ve experienced a wider range of emotion in life, and have a deeper appreciation for the highs & lows. Who find you much more interesting and inspiring for having a few kinks in your armor and some stories to tell.You’ll be less likely to fall for bullshit more able to identify a true heart. Or maybe you yourself realize you weren’t such a peach, yourself. When you sit at the bar with no one next to you, it doesn’t bother you a bit. Which makes us want to be next to you all the more. And maybe you’ll find one of us wanting to be by your side sooner than you think. Dating other members that have like minded interests is a pefect way to come up with ideas to do once you are dating.
What I also notice is that I don’t seem to hear any/as many happy stories about people (like me) who were married 20-25 years, got divorced, and then found happiness/ marriage, etc again. I have always believed that 50’s is in fact, no-man’s land, whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed, the reason being that you aren’t really young anymore, but you aren’t old either. I am me and all I can do is live life to my potential. The thing that bothered me most about your email is this part: You write: “found happiness/marriage etc.
A female friend of mine got divorced recently, and confessed to me how much she dreaded now having the “divorced” label hanging over her head as she re-entered the dating pool, like some modern day version of the scarlet letter. You took a swing at love, rather than just playing it safe on the sidelines.
That she, too, had failed to make it work, and men would recoil from her in disgust, running for the nearest 20-something as soon as possible. That’s an attractive trait to men looking for a worthy partner. You placed a bet in the lottery of life, and while it didn’t work out, you can dust yourself up and try again.
Jackie, I am approaching 50, and just over one year separated from my husband. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.
As I look forward and begin to think about the possibility of future relationships, I can see that dating over 50 might be difficult. So, not only does a large age range, (let’s say 42-57 perhaps?