Dating after divorce effects children
When Becky asked him how long he’d been divorced, he admitted that it wasn’t final yet, that he was living in the basement of the home that he and his wife shared, and that they’d only been separated for three weeks.
Becky gently told her date that he needed to first pursue emotional and spiritual healing. But dating so soon will almost inevitably lead to heartache, since he’s neither emotionally nor legally available.
Some people hold off until engagement before introducing their significant other to their kids.
(Granted, this can create other complications because you want to know how your children will respond to a potential mate prior to engagement.) Bryan, a single father of three, always meets his dates on neutral ground with his children, such as at a church picnic or at movie theatre with friends.
This may mean seeking out your pastor for support, joining a Divorce Recovery group or visiting a Christian counselor.
Some divorced church-goers try to convince themselves that God’s command to abstain from sex doesn’t apply to them — that it’s for the never-married crowd.
This spares his children from the complicated emotions that will inevitably come with adjusting to a new stepparent prematurely.
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He’d like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he’s getting divorced soon.
But John knows better because he’s still married, and dating now would go against God’s desires.
If you start dating prematurely, you could be hurting — rather than honoring — those you date.
When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited.